18 Jan Setting goals , Feels fantastic
Setting goals, especially long-term goals, feels fantastic – after all, through understanding where you want to be, progress is already being made.
Yet most goals and aspirations remain unfulfilled, not because they aren’t compelling enough, and not because there was not enough action taken by the goal-setter; it’s just that life carries on after the excitement of the new goal has faded, other challenges arise and achieving the goal is deprioritised.
So how do we stop this from happening?
How do we maintain momentum on the big, exciting goals that have the potential to transform our lives, while still dealing with the normal circumstances of life? After all, allowing the little stuff to slip would lead to complete chaos, and that doesn’t help anyone.
Big Goals Aren’t One Goal
Massive goals, the ones that, once achieved, leave you completely transformed, can be overwhelming. Writing a book, or purchasing two new investment properties when looked at as a singular, “thing,” can lead to a feeling of overwhelm, which leads to…well, nothing at all.
When you think about it, writing a book isn’t a goal that all – it’s an outcome. A goal would be writing a word, and then a paragraph, and then a page…
Purchasing a property isn’t the goal; speaking to your financial advisor is a goal, and so is learning about the area within which you are going to purchase.
By breaking down your big goals into bite-size chunks, you will be able to take small, comfortable actions each day to move you closer to a life-changing outcome.
Not Every Step Gets a Reward
Small goals are great because they have a very specific and immediate payoff.
– I’m going to run 2 km today.
– I’m going to clean the car.
– I’m going to tidy my office.
These goals are small, and the outcome and pay off our instantaneous. Once you have completed the task, you can congratulate yourself and move on to the next thing.
Big goals don’t work like that.
The small steps towards achieving your big goal don’t have any tangible or emotional payoff – they are means to an end. Analysing your finances with an expert isn’t an outcome, it’s just something that happened on the pathway to the outcome. Writing a page in your book isn’t an outcome, it’s just one of many pages towards the book being complete.
We are programmed as children to respond to immediate rewards. When we do something good, we get told that we are well behaved and a nice child. As we get older, this continues in the workplace with, “employee of the month,” awards and praise when a certain outcome is achieved.
Learn to pat yourself on the back before the final outcome – don’t wait years until you allow yourself to feel good about the journey you are on.
You have your goal, subgoals and a timeline to achieve it. You are rewarding yourself at every stage with an emotional pat on the back and now all you need to do is stay on track.
Don’t forget what you are trying to achieve.
Don’t let a few weeks pass without any action towards your goal.
Make sure you have visible reminders of what you are trying to accomplish around your home or workplace. Stick your goals to the wall or bathroom mirror, have a picture of the outcome in your car or stuck to your computer screen.
Sometimes, seeing a physical reminder is enough to keep you on track and take that action towards achieving your goal.